Are Your Friends Playing Matchmaker?
Do You Have Matchmaking Friends - Slow Pace May Be For The Best
As we close the month of love, there might be some of you that did not find a love connection in February, Maybe you should consider having your trusted friend(s) serve as your unofficial matchmaker. We are all looking for love in our own way.
As humans are naturally social creatures, we want to find a mate whom we can spend the rest of our lives with. But this can be a difficult task. We are all stuck wading through life, hoping to stumble upon that one special someone. Whether it is you trying to find someone for yourself or Matchmaking friends to help them out, the search is never easy.
As difficult as the search may be, what happens when that search actually comes to an end?
What do you do when you think you have found that special someone, that one person with whom you see yourself growing old with? It is at this time that you need to put on your A game and not make any mistakes, as the last thing you want is to drive them away and ruin your chance at happiness.
Now, as melodramatic as that might sound, it really is not that difficult to put yourself on the road towards building a good, stable relationship. There are just a few basic things you should always keep in mind to ensure you have the largest chance of success.
The first thing you should always remember is to go nice and slow. This is vital, whether you are trying to get someone for yourself or Matchmaking friends with someone. If you push it too fast then you will just make them uncomfortable and drive them away. You need to become friends before you can become lovers and that takes time.
On the flip side, you also do not want to drag your feet and refuse to take action. Extremes are bad, too slow or too fast, you want to avoid them both. Take the initiative, move your relationship forward, but do so at a steady pace and make sure you check for signs that they are ready to move on to the next stage.
Once you have that stuck firmly in your mind, the next thing you should do is try to get to know them. This seems obvious, and in a lot of ways it is. When dating people will often pretty themselves up, not just physically but mentally.
But a lot of times they take it too far and outright lie, pretending to be someone they are not. You need to take the time to break through this facade until you see the real them.
You need to make sure you are compatible, because whether it is a personal relationship or Matchmaking friends together, if they are not compatible with one another the relationship will not last. So you will want to make sure you share similarities and similar interests so that you can enjoy your time together.
You will also want to remind yourself and your friends (if you are playing cupid) not to build that facade. You do not want to put your partner through this same digging after all. Just be yourselves and present to them the good and the bad (but definitely more good than bad).
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